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The Monday Blog: Who you spend time with is who you become

 July 20, 2020

By  Lorhainne Eckhart

Who you spend time with is who you become!

This is one of my favorite lessons that I’ve learned from Tony Robbins. Being part of his first ever online virtual UPW was an experience I’d recommend to anyone. Considering the world we’re now living in and the changes that have happened, it’s imperative more than ever to be flexible with change.

Yet change is one of the hardest things for us all, including me, to wrap our heads around and embrace. There is comfort in knowing with certainty that everything is going to be okay, and you’ll have your house, your job, and that upcoming vacation you booked, and you have a paycheck coming in and are earning the same thing day in and day out, and your favorite show on Netflix has been renewed for another season. But what happens when your entire world and everything you knew with certainty comes to an end one morning when governments basically shut the world economy down? It’s brought about one of the biggest unknowns for everyone. If anyone would’ve told me a year ago that this could happen, I know I would’ve said they were crazy.

When we get stuck in that place of fear, one of two things is going to happen: Either we’re going to change radically by stepping way out of our comfort zones, or we’re going to basically shut down and become angry and worried, which is a downward spiral to no place good. When great things happen for everyone, especially in times like this, is when we step out of our comfort zones and take that chance on the unknown—you know, that place no one wants to go because it’s damn uncomfortable. How many of you have lived by the saying that the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t? Is it really?

Right now, we’re living in the most uncertain time ever, because everything about the way we lived has changed radically overnight. Your economy, the one you created, has either dried up or prospered. How many of you know someone right now who has made a shift in his or her business to change with this shutdown? I know a few who’ve radically changed their businesses overnight. If you weren’t online, doing something, selling something, getting your product to someone, what happened to you?

People are creating some brand-new concepts on how to deliver goods or products based on the way we have to do things right now. Being able to shift while being shut in, being able to create your own economy by pivoting during these challenging times, takes stepping outside your comfort zone, that one place very few are comfortable going. But it’s the one place where each of us must live. I wouldn’t be an author today if I hadn’t stepped out of my comfort zone into one of the hardest industries to get into.

But what does that have to do with the idea that who you spend time with is who you become? Everything. Your peer group, the people around you, whether online or in person, needs to have a higher standard than you so you can and will strive for more. If your peer group consists of people who just get by, who consistently lower their standards, then what you’ll end up doing is lowering your standards to match theirs. That’s why in any business venture, you want to surround yourself with a peer group who are achieving things at a much higher level than you. It’s like that saying: You have your friends, and then you have your peer group.

Lorhainne Eckhart

"Lorhainne Eckhart is one of my go to authors when I want a guaranteed good book. So many twists and turns, but also so much love and such a strong sense of family." (Lora W., Reviewer) New York Times & USA Today bestseller Lorhainne Eckhart writes Raw Relatable Real Romance is best known for writing big family romances series, where “Morals and family are running themes. Danger, romance, and a drive to do what is right will see you glued to the page.” As one fan calls her, she is the “Queen of the family saga.” (aherman) writing “the ups and downs of what goes on within a family but also with some suspense, angst and of course a bit of romance thrown in for good measure.” Follow Lorhainne on Bookbub to receive alerts on New Releases and Sales and join her mailing list at LorhainneEckhart.com for her Monday Blog, books news, giveaways and FREE reads. With over 120 books, audiobooks, and multiple series published and available at all retailers now translated into six languages. She is a multiple recipient of the Readers’ Favorite Award for Suspense and Romance, and lives in the Pacific Northwest on an island, is the mother of three, her oldest has autism and she is an advocate for never giving up on your dreams. "Lorhainne Eckhart has this uncanny way of just hitting the spot every time with her books.” (Caroline L., Reviewer) The O’Connells: The O’Connells of Livingston, Montana are not your typical family. A riveting collection of stories surrounding the ups and downs of what goes on within a family but also with some suspense, angst and of course a bit of romance thrown in for good measure “I thought I loved the Friessens, but I absolutely adore the O’Connell’s. Each and every book has totally different genres of stories but the one thing in common is how she is able to wrap it around the family which is the heart of each story.” (C. Logue) The Friessens: An emotional big family romance series, the Friessen family siblings find their relationships tested, lay their hearts on the line, and discover lasting love! “Lorhainne Eckhart is one of my go to authors when I want a guaranteed good book. So many twists and turns, but also so much love and such a strong sense of family.” (Lora W., Reviewer) The Parker Sisters: The Parker Sisters are a close-knit family, and like any other family they have their ups and downs. “Eckhart has crafted another intense family drama…The character development is outstanding, and the emotional investment is high…" (Aherman, Reviewer) The McCabe Brothers: Join the five McCabe siblings on their journeys to the dark and dangerous side of love! An intense, exhilarating collection of romantic thrillers you won’t want to miss. — “Eckhart has a new series that is definitely worth the read. The queen of the family saga started this series with a spin-off of her wildly successful Friessen series.” From a Readers’ Favorite award—winning author and “queen of the family saga” (Aherman)

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