Blog Post, Motivational

How many times have you been told you just need to think positively about a bad situation and then everything will be okay?

 March 4, 2019

By  Lorhainne Eckhart

How many times have you been told you just need to think positively about a bad situation and then everything will be okay?

Positive thinking isn’t wrong, it’s just not really effective.  Positive thinking is basically saying that there is something negative and you are overcoming it--the problem is it doesn’t work very well because there is something better, and it really comes down to a strategy of getting on with it instead of focusing all your energy on thinking positive in a negative situation to try and get yourself feeling better about the bad thing you’ve automatically labelled.

Remember good thing/bad thing and why you shouldn't label a situation that suddenly is in your mind a bad awful thing that is so horrible that you don’t know how you're going to dig your way out of it, as it leaves you in tears, stressed, anxious and maybe with sleepless nights filled with dread and worry over that something that has just happened--you know, losing your job or having your salary suddenly cut in half, not able to afford your house payments or your health takes a turn for the worse.

Think of it this way: if you haven’t put a label on it and called it a bad thing, then you're not having to use positive thinking to overcome it. Try not labeling a situation going on in your life as good or bad. And when something happens, as soon as you find your mind going to that spot of wanting to label this a bad thing and you feel the edges of anxiety, stress, worry and sleepless nights biting at you, stop before you downward spiral anymore. Don’t label it anything--instead just say this is what happened, end of story, and then focus all your attention and emotional energy on what do I now have to do to get myself out of this. Whenever you are confronted with adversity, recognize it, acknowledge it, and then stop thinking about it. Instead, think detailed, strategic, determined, and put all your focus into “What do I have to do now to get myself out of this situation?” If you shift your thinking to this strategy, you will find that you won’t have to then put all your focus and energy on positive thinking; instead you’re thinking and asking yourself, “What do I now have to do?", and then doing the steps that you need to do get out of it, to fix it, to not be in that situation. 

Easy? Try it--you’ll find it gets easier the more you become strategic with your thinking. And what’s even better is the fact you will find that all that anxiety, stress, worry and sleepless nights will suddenly stop plaguing you as they once did.

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Lorhainne Eckhart

With flawed strong characters, characters you can relate to, New York Times & USA Today Bestselling Author Lorhainne Eckhart writes the kind of books she wants to read. She is frequently a Top 100 bestselling author in multiple genres, and her second book ever published, The Forgotten Child, is no exception. With close to 900 reviews on Amazon, translated into German and French, this book was such a hit that the long-running Friessen Family series was born. Now with over ninety titles and multiple series under her belt her big family romance series are loved by fans worldwide. A recipient of the 2013, 2015 and 2016 Readers’ Favorite Award for Suspense and Romance, Lorhainne lives on the sunny west-coast Gulf Island of Salt Spring Island, is the mother of three, her oldest has autism and she is an advocate for never giving up on your dreams.

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  • I only use that phrase when I have so many things that need to be completed today or when I’m about to go on vacation and these last minute deadlines get to me because I know I can’t get everything done before I leave for vacation. Talk about being overswamped.


  • I like this concept. It’s a matter of just accepting what is & doing what ever needs to be done to deal with it. Thanks for the advice!!


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